Great Thought- Some Thoughts on Relationships -IV 25/11/2015

Happy Morning

Maturity is to consistently feed the right side and bring out the best in others.  Always bring the positive of the other person to the surface.  The only way to build beautiful relationships is by making others feel beautiful when they are with you.

Continued from Monday


  • Maturity is to leave your yesterdays to yesterdays.  Never view your today in the relationship through the mistakes of yesterday.  As humans, we will err.  It is immature to maintain a database of mistakes.  Forgive, let go and forget.  You don’t have to prove anything.  You need peace and for your peace you need peaceful relationships. Always draw a line to the past and see your today with fresh eyes.  Come from a clean slate.
  • Maturity is to know you cannot keep threatening the relationship that you want to build.  ” If you want, you can leave.”.  ” If you do this again, I may quit.” ” If you have so much problem with me, they why not we part ways.”  You can’t keep threatening a relationship and expect it to become better. Leave this thought that you can leave. The striving is to integrate your world and my world into our world, and not to segment our world into your world and my world.
  • Maturity is in your willingness to be the first to take the initiative. Maturity is not holding the transparency that was practiced during good time against the person during the bad times. Maturity is in not asking the other to alter their likes and dislikes for you to love them. And the list is endless……

A mature relationship is one when the other person feels as secure as being in the womb of their mother when they are with you.  If you can be that even to one person, you are a great blessing, for, in your presence, someone would not even miss God.

Wishing you most and more

Have a wonderful day

R.Ramakrishnan

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Great Thought- Some Thoughts on Relationships -III 23/11/2015

Happy Morning

Similarly, in the road called life, In dealing with the traffic called relationships, It is not the question of whose mistake, But it is the question of whose life. In relationships too, if you want happiness YOU have to make the adjustments. Here too, blaming makes no sense.

Continued from Friday


The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your experiences.  Experience is the meeting point of “You” and “Your world”.  So, if you need to improve the quality of your experiences, which means you have to improve the quality of the interaction between ” You” and ” Your world”. While your world may not always be in your control, you are. It takes one person to change your life, and that is ” You”.

Instead of accepting yourself as you are and expecting the world to change, accept the world as it is and you start changing- at least change your approach towards the world.  A good sailor knows that he cannot change the direction of wind to reach his destination; what he or she needs to do is to adjust his or her sails.

Irrespective of the other, when you begin to respond right, your will get your relationships right.  So, take complete responsibility for the quality of your relationships.  I had mentioned earlier –the quality of the painting is the painter’s responsibility. You cannot blame the canvas. The quality of a statue is the sculptor’s responsibility.  Similarly, the quality of relationships is your responsibility and yours alone.

One important thing which can greatly improve the quality of relationships is –Much more than how you feel for others, how you make them feel when they are with you plays a significant role in the quality of relationships.  If they feel great when they are with you , you build a great relationship.  If they feel lousy when they are with you, you build a lousy relationship with you.

How to make others feel great ?  Every human being has the good side and the wrong side.  Immaturity is to rub the human consistently on the wrong side and bring out the worst in them.

Why provoke the weaker side ?  You don’t get your relationships right by making others look wrong. Nobody benefits and everybody suffers.  What  is the point?

Maturity is to consistently feed the right side and bring out the best in others.  Always bring the positive of the other person to the surface.  The only way to build beautiful relationships is by making others feel beautiful when they are with you.

Will continue on Wednesday

Wishing you most and more

Have a wonderful day & great week

R.Ramakrishnan

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Great Thought- Some Thoughts on Relationships -II 20/11/2015

Happy Morning

Maturity is factoring immaturity of others.

Continued from Wednesday


On the road, it is never the question of whose mistake, but it is the question of whose life! The responsibility of ‘not hitting’ and ‘not being hit’, both are yours and yours alone. On the road, it you want to be alive YOU have to make the adjustments. Blaming makes no sense. 

Similarly, in the road called life, In dealing with the traffic called relationships, It is not the question of whose mistake, But it is the question of whose life. In relationships too, if you want happiness YOU have to make the adjustments. Here too, blaming makes no sense.

Will continue on Monday….  

Have a wonderful weekend and happy relationships

Wishing you most & more

R.Ramakrishnan

Group Chairman’s Office

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Great Thought- Some Thoughts on Relationships 18/11/2015

Happy Morning

Relationships in life are either mature relationships or immature relationships.  In describing relationships , we use adjectives like good, bad, great, ugly, best etc., and all these adjectives are meaningless.

The first stroke of maturity is to understand that there are no perfect relationships.  When there are no perfect human beings or individuals, then how can there be perfect relationships?  Nothing human made or human involved can be perfect because human is innately imperfect.  How can a perfect effect come out of an imperfect cause?  So, relationships in their very nature, are imperfect.  At best, we can enjoy growing relationships.  Growth is never-ending progression from imperfection towards perfection.  A growing relationships is ” always” under construction, growing from different degrees of imperfection towards different degrees of perfection.

  • In all matters of life, there is a circle of concern and a circle of influence.
  • In the context of relationships, you are your circle of influence and the other is always your circle of concern.
  • You can desire certain behaviors from them; but it is still  a circle of concern’ it is up to them and not up to you.
  • Your behavior is what you can influence.   It is not what happens to  you , it is your response to what happens to you that you influence.
  • It is not others’ behavior towards you, but your behavior towards others that you can influence.  That is in your control.
  • So, instead of accepting yourself as you are and expecting others to change maturity is to accept others as they are and you change your approach towards them.
  • Always remember the rod sign- U Turn.
  • You turn.

You have your spouse and her or his behavior can only be your circle of concern.  But you can always influence your response towards his or her behavior. The freedom of response is still your choice.  Cribbing takes you nowhere.  Complaining will only tire you.  Choose matured responses and not reactions.   For now that is your boss and for now that is your team.

Maturity is factoring immaturity of others.

Will continue ……

Wishing you most and more

Have a wonderful day

R.Ramakrishnan

Group Chairman’s Office

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Great Thought- Problems & Solutions 15/11/2015

Happy Morning

In the process of attaining clarity over a particular subject, the element of confusion takes its role and spoils the strength of clarity.  In other words, many thoughts on something make the very perception chaotic and meaningless.

Questions always precede answers.  Problems always precede solutions.  Chaos always precedes clarity.

  • But.. you cannot find an answer with the same maturity with which your formed the question.
  • You cannot solve a problem with the same maturity with which you encountered it.
  • You cannot gain clarity on a subject with the same maturity with which the confusions was understood.

Either you have to gain a higher maturity through your own contemplation and experiences, from which you find the answer, the solution and the clarity required, or you will have to take the help of one with a higher maturity , who will give you the answer, solution and clarity, and thus lead you to a higher maturity.

Those like you, who rely on your own intelligence first before falling back on an external intelligence, cannot avoid the chaotic and confusing transition.  The moment you feed your intelligence with a subject, it immediately starts wandering in all possible directions.  It forms questions, it answers its own question and then again questions its own answers.  It seeks information on the subject from every possible source-human, literature and technology.  It attempts to correlate the bits and pieces it has gathers.  It tries to connect the dots.  This is what contemplation is all about.  But in all this, through what you call as confusion and chaos , the maturity with which you look at the subject is expanded.  Now, the maturity with which you are attempting to clarify the confusion is much higher. Now, even if you don’t find the answer, the intelligence with which you look at things is much higher.  So often, contemplating on one subject helps you to gain clarity on one of your earlier confusions; you find answers to one of your unanswered questions from the past.  That is why human is called an evolving consciousness.

It is not good to approach contemplation with an academic bent of mind, where you need to always have the right answer for every question.  Enjoy the confusion.  Wonder at how all you able to think.  See contemplations as an intellectual game.  And this game is such, you may not always find the treasure you are looking for, but you will find something else that you will treasure.

Wishing you most &  more

Have a wonderful day & great week

R.Ramakrishnan

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Great Thought- Ageing & Growing 13/11/2015

Happy Morning

Putting days into life is ageing.  Putting life into days is growing.  Ageing or growing is not an annual phenomenon, but everyday process.

A human being is a multidimensional personality, and each of these dimensions has its own needs.  The physical need is ‘to live’ , the mental and intellectual need is ‘to learn’ , the emotional need is ‘to love and to be loved’ and the spiritual need is ‘ to leave a legacy”.

To Live :

Exercise your body every day one hour to the body and 23 hours of healthy and fit living.  Push your body a little more and feed it a little less.

To Learn:

Develop the habit of reading. Learn a new proficiency every year.  Let no day end without feeding your mind and intellect.

To Love :

In small acts and expressions of love, life is made.  Massage the tired legs of your daddy, or lie down on your mummy’s lap.  Visit a friend who is down in spirit.  Erase someone’s guilt by calling them voluntarily and letting them know that you are nor carrying the hurt. Visit your teacher when it is not a ” Teacher’s day” .  The expressions of love are limitless.  Find your way today and let your heart melt in love every day.

To leave legacy :

With the passing of every night, a day would pass away and so will your life one day.  Your life will end, but your contributions should transcend your life. Plant a sapling, water tree, create a system that will outlive your tenure in the organization , sponsor someone’s education, create an award in the school, save a divorce wipe out the word solitude from someone’s life.  We all would go, but let us leave behind the spirit of our contributions in this world.

Stop ageing and start growing.  Life is to live, to learn, to love and leave legacy.

Wishing you most & more

Have a wonderful day & great weekend

R.Ramakrishnan

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Significance of Real Diwali 9/11/2015

Dear All

 

 

In the world around us, darkness is just absence of light.  But in the inner dimensions of the human being, darkness is absence of clarity, maturity and awareness.

 

The evil need not necessarily come in the form of demons.  Desperation, Depression, Anger, Jealous , negative thoughts and frustration will cause much more damage to our lives than the demons that you have not seen.

 

Diwali is a reminder to slay all that is negatives to our life.  Especially in today’s global economic situation, on this festival of lights, let our inner light remain on.

 

How we go through our tough times determines what we are made of.  If only we can go through difficult times with an inner grace, we could see that every situation we face is an opportunity to enhance our lives.

 

Diwali is known as Festival of Lights.  It is also a celebration of clarity and enlightenment .  May this Diwali be not just a Festival of Lights, but also a celebration of taking step towards enlightenment.

 

May this Diwali light up you and your family’s life within .

 

Happy Diwali 

 

Wishing you most and more to you and your family

 

 

R.Ramakrishnan

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